First of all, your fear of rejection stems from your own insecurities about yourself. Well, you're going to have to start thinking better of yourself. There is ABSOLUTELY no reason for you to be thinking negatively about yourself. I'm not trying to be some phony Stuart Smally Self-Help Therapist, and no, I don't claim to know anything personal about you. The fact is, we all have things to be proud of; being smart, having a healthy/fit body, being good with cars, having a good job, being caring towards others, and many more. You know yourself best and you know what you're good at. Guess what? No one else cares about what you think your problems are. You may be insecure because of you have a bit of acne, wear glasses, are going bald, don't have a good job or something else, but anyone who you think would judge you because of this is so insecure with themselves that they aren't even going to notice your faults. It is time to stop living in the little world that you created for yourself in Junior High and realize that your good qualities are what define you as a person and that no one, and I mean no one else is going to get caught up with your "imperfections". Focus on your good qualities, if someone else is going to focus on your imperfections, well that is their damn problem not yours!

      You have to realize that when you go up and introduce yourself to a woman or ask her to dance she is not going to notice any of your imperfections. She is going to be excited simply by the fact that she attracted a guy enough to make him "break the ice" with her. Now true, she may not be attracted to you (through no fault of your own) or may have a boyfriend, or simply be preoccupied at the time and not interested in socializing. This happens a lot, but these are all things beyond your control and you absolutely should not blame yourself when you hear the word "no". It is NOT your fault. All but about 10% are going to be flattered that you came up to them (as long as you are nice and not being a jerk), a lot of women will say no in a very nice way. When women seem kind of harsh it is usually because they are not used to being approached and just don't know a nice way to say no. Of course there's going to be the 10% who are just mean people, screw 'em, you don't need 'em! There's just one thing to remember, no matter how badly you may feel after being rejected, you should always treat the woman nicely. Say something like "Thanks anyway" and exit gracefully (it makes the woman think nicely of you and in some cases she'll think she made a mistake rejecting you -- a nice little game to play!). I see way to many guys, when rejected, hold up their hand as if shooing the girl away. This is really immature, makes you look like a complete fool, and will ruin your chances with any other girl who sees it.

      Now, you're going to have to get used to being rejected and not have your world crumble apart. Believe me, when you hear "Sure, I'll go out with you" or something similar it will have all been worth it. Now I'm going to let you in on a golden secret of successful salespeople. They love to be rejected! Yep, I bet you hate being called on the phone by salespeople when you sit down for dinner. Maybe you even cuss them out, well guess what, you're only making the happier and richer (If you want to piss them off just pretend that you're interested and change your mind at the last second). The sooner you say no, the quicker they are to a yes. It may take them 165 calls to make a sale, every time they hear a no, they are that much closer. This is the *Power of Rejection*. Think the same way when asking women to dance! It should only take 4-6 no's in the worst case. Every time you hear the word no, you should be happy to say "Thanks anyway" because you are that much closer to picking up a chick! I can't stress how well this works. Try it as soon as possible and pick up that chick!